✨ Reflections
Post-surgery, I have experienced allowing people to help me. I have not been big on asking or receiving help. And for the first time, I've had to ask for help and not only ask for help but allow the help to be a part of my recovery. I have learned that it is okay to ask and, more importantly, okay to receive love unconditionally.
I have in the past bought love or thought that I had to reciprocate love dollar-for-dollar because that's kind of how I was raised. But since March 20th, I have been in a place of receiving. I still had to pace myself not to give back because I was being cared for during my recovery, but I did not go overboard. I gave at the level that I felt was appropriate for receiving the love, and I thank God that I'm learning.
I know it's not going to happen overnight, but I was able to do what I needed to do to show my appreciation to the people that traveled out of state to come help me. I showed my love and appreciation for that without breaking myself or stressing myself out, because that's the other thing—I do stuff that stresses me out because I don't want to feel like I'm imposing or taking advantage. I don't want it to come back that people helped me and then they have something to say about that.
It has been a learning experience, and the lesson I learned is that it is definitely okay to ask like-minded people to help you. People that love you don't mind helping you and caring for you. You're not Superwoman. You can't do everything for yourself. You have to learn how to ask and don't assume that people are going to be relationally aware of your needs. Although you feel like the ones closest to you should be aware, they are not always aware. That doesn't mean I should love them any less; it’s just that I have to be aware. I have to be aware that if I need something, instead of sitting up hardening my heart, I just need to ask for what I need and move on.
—Le’Yonce
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