✨ Reflection

I used to think loving people meant always being available.

Always saying yes.

Always showing up.

Always giving, even when it cost me something.

I thought that’s what God required of me.

But I’m learning… that’s not love. That’s exhaustion.

Because somewhere along the way, I started confusing love with access.

I gave people full access to me before I learned how to guard what I carry.

And now that I know, I have to move differently.

So now I’m asking God something different—

How do I love the way You want me to love

without losing myself in the process?

Because I don’t want to harden my heart.

I don’t want to become bitter.

But I also don’t want to keep being stepped on.

And what I’m realizing is this:

Love does not mean I say yes to everything.

Love does not mean I ignore what I feel.

Love does not mean I overextend myself just to keep the peace.

Real love is honest.

Real love has boundaries.

Real love does not require me to abandon myself.

Even Jesus didn’t say yes to everyone.

He loved people deeply…

but He still walked away when it was necessary.

He still rested.

He still chose who had access to Him.

So maybe loving like God doesn’t look like overgiving.

Maybe it looks like obedience.

Maybe it looks like wisdom.

Maybe it looks like saying no without guilt.

I’m learning that I can love people…

and still choose peace.

I can care…

and still have limits.

I can show up…

without overextending.

And maybe that’s the kind of love God was asking of me all along.

— LeYonce

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